Couple's therapy
Sexuality
|
When partners have unresolved conflicts both tend to feel painfully rejected and criticised. Understandably they find it difficult to listen to the other's point of view without feeling attacked. Therapy offers a safe space where both sides will be listened to with empathy. Partners will be encouraged to try out different skills that support open and respectful communication. They will be empowered to express their feelings in a non blaming way and helped to listen to their partner's different and valid experience. We will look at the couple's strengths and how to build on them, as well as their unhelpful patterns of relating, and how to change them. This can cause great tension in a relationship. Partners may also have different experiences and expectations from their sexual life. There may be tensions regarding the frequency, and preferences, which can lead to feelings of frustration and rejection in one side, and feeling pressured and guilty in the other. Fluctuations in the quality and frequency of sexual relationships are natural, and occur as life’s circumstances change. But if difficulties persist and cause distress it may be good to seek therapy. I am aware of how exposing and sensitive sexual issues are for most people, and work with the utmost respect and sensitivity. I would first asses the difficulties, and rule out medical causes. I will work to validate the partners' differing needs and longings and identify beliefs and personal experiences that may inhibit them. We will design practical homework that may aid the couple in their journey, and look at ways to allow both to get in touch with their sexual selves, and their passion. Sometimes sexual issues are better worked through individually. These may include cases of sexual abuse or trauma, sexual addiction, or when people are not in a relationship. |
SKHpsychotherapy
|
Telephone 07766705884
|
Email: [email protected]
|